Why I Started the Men’s Circle

Around fifteen months ago, I felt a quiet but persistent call to be in space with other men.

Not to fix anything.
Not to perform.
Just to be real.

I went looking for that space. I searched for something that felt grounded, honest, and safe. A place where men could come as they are, be seen, be heard, and grow together.

I couldn’t find what I was looking for.

And then a familiar question surfaced in my awareness:

If not me, then who?
If not now, then when?

I had the space.
I had some lived experience.
I had training, tools, and a deep respect for nervous system work, breath, and embodied healing.

So I put the call out.

I wasn’t sure who would respond, or if anyone would. But the response was immediate. Men replied. Not because they needed another thing to add to their calendar, but because they were longing for something that was missing.

A place to come together as men.
To breathe.
To regulate their nervous systems.
To drop the armour.
To speak honestly.
To listen deeply.
To remember they are not alone.

What became clear very quickly is that there is a real hunger for healthy masculinity and genuine male connection. A space where judgement is left at the door. Where strength isn’t measured by silence or stoicism, but by presence, responsibility, and integrity.

This journey hasn’t been without its challenges for me.

Some of my own childhood wounds live within the masculine. For a long time, I didn’t feel safe in male environments. I sought comfort and safety in the feminine instead. Stepping forward to facilitate a men’s circle has been a profound embodiment of my own healing. It has required me to meet those old wounds, to stay present, and to choose growth over avoidance.

In many ways, this circle isn’t something I stand above. It’s something I stand within.

We don’t come here as finished men.
We come here to grow together.

There’s a philosophy shared in many indigenous cultures that when one member of the community is unwell, the community is unwell. It becomes the responsibility of the individual to raise their hand, and the responsibility of the community to help lift them back up.

That’s what this space is about.

Learning to ask for support.
Learning to offer it.
Learning to regulate our nervous systems so we can respond rather than react.
Learning that vulnerability doesn’t make us weak, it makes us connected.

The Men’s Council at The Legacy Foundry exists to build community, trust, and strength from the inside out. To support men to become the best version of themselves, not through force or pressure, but through presence, accountability, and shared experience.

If you’re reading this and you feel that quiet pull.
If you’ve been searching for something similar.
If you’re craving connection, depth, and brotherhood.

You’re welcome here.

Come sit with us.
Come breathe.
Come be seen.

Chris